O son, I am inspired to share what I have learned from watching the television tonight. The topic is about the value of children as an investment tool for parents - on what is the yardstick to measure their success and your success as parents. Or your success as a child yourself.
Your children are considered successful not when they become successful in their careers. They are considered successful when they do not become a cause for you to leave the heavens because they might blame you in front of Allah; that you have not educated them properly, that you have not fulfilled your duties; that you have failed to carry out the trust (amanah) for verily they are God's trust upon you.
You are considered successful when your children love you enough to remember to make du'a for you, especially when you are no longer around. You are considered successful if you and your spouse could be good examples for them so that they will grow to have that one invaluable trait - to make du'a for you. Meaning, you must show to your children that you are a good child who is thoughtful of your parents.
You are considered successful if you could make your household as the best university for your growing children; if you could make your home as a heaven for your family - baiti jannati.
You are considered successful when your children grow up knowing the true goals of life. The goal is not for them to be rich, marry and be merry.
The only two goals they need to have are:
- to meet Rasulullah s.a.w and
- to gaze at Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
So, teach them how to live, with the end in mind.