O son, no doubt, it is one of the hardest things to do - for me to be absent from 'myself' and you to be absent from 'yourself'. These I-ness and you-ness diseases strike all and leave none.
Ibn al-Farid says:
My intellect, through being attached to my presence
was separating me from God,
while my deprivation (of individuality),
through the ravishing of my self,
by my absence from myself,
was uniting me with God.
Abu Said says:
There is no worse affectation than your 'youness'
since whenever you are occupied with selfhood,
you are held back from God.
O son, we all want God and at the same time we all want to stay glued to ourselves too. No we cannot do that. You ought to deny your you-ness and I my I-ness. Deny!
La ilaha illAllah!
That is why, according to Shaykh Abdul Aziz, we do zikr and repeat Allah...Allah...Allah... because we deny ourselves, deny everything else and testify only Allah.
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References: The Reflections of the Mystics of Islam. The Knowing Heart: A Sufi Path Of Transformation