I am watching three gentlemen on telly right now, they are talking about broken hearted men. Heh heh...I am not kidding!
One of them is an ustaz (one tv ustaz I've always enjoyed listening to). The other guest is a nashid singer - an eligible bachelor. The host is a good looking lad. They are hilarious, yet very informative. What a way to start saturday.
The ustaz said:
You must understand and be redha with the four things that have been preordained when you were in your mother's belly - on the 120th day of pregnancy when Allah grants you ruh. On that day, Allah pre-determined your:1. Provision/rizq
Therefore, said Ustaz Fauzi:
Do not be broken hearted when a girl turns you down. Don't despair. To cure your headache and heartache say:
Allahumma inni auzubika minal hammi wal hazan
'I seek refuge in Allah from feeling unsettled and from sorrow.'
If you can't seem to forget the girl, put one hand on your heart or forehead and recite:
Yam hullah huma yasha'
يَمْحُواْ ٱللَّهُ مَا يَشَآءُ
'Allah effaces what He wills.'
(Qur'an Ar-Ra'd 13:39)
While reciting that phrase, make a gesture with your palm as though you are removing thoughts of her from your heart or mind.
What is most important is to see the hikmah (wisdom) behind the failed love affair and understand the meaning of verse 216 from Al-Baqarah that:
"It is possible that you dislike a thing which is good for you, and that you love a thing which is bad for you. But God knows, and you know not."
So, to all broken hearted men out there, chill out! And have a great weekend!